Monday, August 29, 2011

Ted Pink shares his wisdom for 21st Century management

Hello friends.  A very passionate speaker teaches us about how our ever-changing and evolving lives in business as well as in life can often be right in front of us, but not be seen.  Enjoy this clip: Know yourself, don't NO yourself.

Monday, August 22, 2011

Joy - chosen

Happiness is a choice.  Like when we chose our favorite peanut butter, the color of our new car, the college we want to go to, which bill to pay this month.  Choice is all around us, and is the only thing we have control over, yet we seem to think we have no control - no choice.  Why?

How many times have you said out loud... "I have no choice."  Are you sure you didn't?  Are you sure you don't?

There's a wonderful distinction between choice and decision.  Decide, roughly dissected, translates to the murder of the alternative:  De (the other) Cide (murder).  When we decide, we automatically remove the other options and find we have to defend our decision... "I did this because..."  Decisions are therefore not powerful in the scheme of things.  Choice, however, is a powerful entity which requires no defense.  "I chose this because I chose this."

Living in choice makes us strong, resolute, complete.  Choosing allows us to have what we want without explanation, without apology, without a story to back it up.  We choose because we choose.  End of story.

So... today I choose joy.  Do I have issues?  Yes.  Do I have problems?  Yes.  Do I have setbacks?  Yes.  I have all those things, but THEY DON'T HAVE ME.  And that is where the power comes.  You can't stop life from coming at you, but you certainly can choose to not be affected by it.  Life will always present challenges, disappointments, despair, and so forth.  But you don't have to be given by those outside circumstances... you can CHOOSE to overcome them.  All of them.

Choose joy today.  It's the same as choosing sadness - same energy - it's just directed in the direction of your most powerful destiny.

Know yourself, don't NO yourself!

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Nice Guy's Finish

There was a study released today which determined that "Mean People Make More Money."  It's an interesting study, but one that shows a dangerous trend: To have the American dream, you have to be a jerk.  The study - like most others - doesn't attempt to preach the benefits of a life lived doing good deeds for others, it only states the results of an investigation.  In fact, most information from studies are only meant to deliver facts about trends and human behavior.

In the same news cycle was a story about a police officer who was shot outside of a McDonalds by a suicidal drug addict just minutes after the cop bought cookies for a 13-year-old boy and delivered sage advice encouraging the boy to work hard and follow his dream of being an NBA star.

The slain police officer in this story wasn't trying to get ahead by stepping over the weaker people in his way to achieve the goal of more, more more -  he was risking his life every day to protect and serve those who needed him.  It was his dedication to betterment of his fellow man that drove him on his path to success, and success for him was a life in service of others.

There is no difference between the jerk who leaves nice guys in his wake to have more things, and the police officer who lost his life doing good for others - each man will one day be underground and all they will have left will be what others say about them.

List of nice rich guys:  Warren Buffet, Richard Branson, Tom Hanks, Ron Howard.

Anger and mean behavior comes from fear.  There is no shame in being a nice guy, no reason to succumb to anger and mean behavior just because you fear being poor.  You want to make money?  good... you can be assertive and go for what you want, that's the American way!  But mean behavior, treating others poorly, or looking down on others who have less is not American, it's not anything - it's just not necessary.

Good deeds, like the one the slain officer did moments before his senseless death, define us long after our money, toys, and greed get snatched up by our ungrateful, spoiled kids!

Know yourself, don't NO yourself

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Steve Truitt Coaching Page on Facebook

Hello all,

Please follow this link and 'like' my Facebook coaching page.  It's good karma!

My Facebook Coaching Page:
You can also follow me on Twitter @stevetruitt

Know yourself, don't NO yourself!


Friday, August 5, 2011

On The Court

What stops you?  Most times it’s the discomfort we feel when confronted with a challenge that we’d rather not face.  Often those challenges are really very good things, there to shake us up and make us grow, but we may not see it that way, and so we get uncomfortable and back away.  One of my favorite quotes about stepping out of your comfort zone and living life in the open is this:  To the world, you may only be one person, but to one person, you may be the world. There's a very funny thing that happens when we decide to get out of the viewing stands of life and get on the court to play ball; people already in the game want to play with us, and those still stuck behind have the choice to stay behind or get inspired.

As a person who spent most of my youth perfectly content to sit on the sidelines and watch the game of life play out in front of me, it was just as easy to resent the players, and make them wrong for playing the way they did.  But after my transformation to a person at cause in my life, not always on the 'effect' side of life, I began to take risks with personal interaction – getting out of my shy box, and actually starting a conversation (something I always dreaded). Small moves socially at first led to larger, more bold interactions, follow ups, and eventually networking, and before I knew it, I was on the court, playing with the big boys (and big girls!)

Here’s the key:  There's only one difference between you and someone just like you who may have more success in the same area where you struggle:  The successful person believes they have a right to achieve their goals no matter what – this is what gives them that competitive edge, that passion.  

I want you think of someone in your life, or that you are aware of, that is successful.  Now answer these questions:  Do they have a firm grasp of their own abilities? Do they ignore the fear of what others think?  Do they always seem to know in their heart that they belong where they are?   If you answered “Yes” to those questions, then you’re thinking of someone who has the edge on knowing themselves and their power.  Now… ask yourself the same questions.  Do you answer “Yes” each time?  If not, what will it take to get you there?

Here are 3 tips to get you in the “Yes” column in your life:

1.  Find your passion.  We all have something we’re great at.  If you haven’t found your thing yet, ask your best friend, ask your family members, They know you probably better than you know yourself.  Interview them on your strengths, what they love about you, and where they see you acting at your best.  Chances are you already know what you were meant to do, but haven’t found the strength to pursue it.  I was lost in my career until I realized that helping others is what I do best – I’ve been doing it since I was a kid, helping my grandfather deliver Meals On Wheels. It took me a while to realize that I could do it on a grand scale with massive results, and I’ve never been happier.

2.  Believe.  Believe.  Believe.  I know it can be hard to be led if it is you that you're following, but you have to believe that you are worth the successful outcome, or you will always end up back in the stands. When you’re talking with your friends and family about how they see you and your strengths, listen for the compliments as well.  Friends and family are the perfect mirror for us to see where we shine and where we can improve.  A mentor or coach would be a great help in this area as well.

3. Take Action.   Take all that pent up fear that holds you back and use positive actions to point yourself in the right direction.  If you can imagine what might go wrong if you take a risk, then you can also imagine what can go right!  Remember, courage is acting in the face of fear.  For me as a shy person, I had to simply begin talking to people at parties, in crowds, at games, etc.  I knew if I was going to up my game, then I had to make the first move and get uncomfortable! Now I can engage with anyone and not fear that first contact.

At the end of the day, the only thing that stops us is ourselves.  But ask yourself what’s worse; the discomfort of stretching ourselves to see how far and fast we can improve, or the more comfortable, but non-rewarding inaction?  I think you already know the answer to that one.

"Know yourself, don't NO yourself"