Who are you stumbling for? Who are you failing for? Who are you drinking / drugging for?
Tough question, although not really. Often the very people you blame for your problems in your life are the ones you may be hanging your disfunction on as a reason to stay dysfunctional. After all pain, rejection, disappointment - these are simple, expected emotions. Victory, achievement, joy - these are emotions you may not always expect on a consistent basis, but pine for nonetheless.
This is what I call living in The NO Zone; a place we desperately wish we could get out of, but one that is too familiar, certain, and consistent to leave because at least you know what to expect from it. It's safer to stay here and live a life of want, than to venture out and risk losing everything. And so you stay in your corner and develop elaborate schemes to blame outside forces for your immobilization. This blame game is simple: you have a person or event in your life which you wear like a coat, protecting you from risking a more powerful future, a more positive life. Perhaps you have your whole story set up: "He did this, so therefore I am like this..." you'll say to yourself and anyone else who listens. "I'm like this because of this..." you might continue.
Today is the day you release your 'reasons' for failure and take on a new story of success - a story you can begin writing right now with these simple phrases...
"Today is the day. I am the person."
"I make the choice, God makes the change."
You already know what you need to let go of to move forward. Jealousy of another, hatred, blame, resentment, and on and on. You already know, but hanging on to these negative emotions let you have one aspect of control over your life - being RIGHT. You get to be right about your anger by making the other person / thing wrong.
And so you stay in The NO Zone getting to be right, and never moving forward.
Are you ready to release this negative aspect and begin anew? Today? NOW?
If so, you have one thing to do - you already know what it is. Do it and the results will astound you.
Today is the day. You are the person. You make the choice, God will make the change.
Choose wisely, powerfully, lovingly... and see what happens.
Know yourself, don't NO yourself.